I Dream of a Blue Summer

I remember reading this article in some girly magazine a few months back in a salon. It took me by surprise since it wasn't (a) air-headed (b) stupid (c) shallow, although the pretense of every other article in most girly magazine is such this one was an exception.

It was one of those articles about "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" when I saw this snippet. It was about how women and men deal with anger/problems.

Women, when observed, when dealing with anger/stress/problems/etc tend to rant, or talk with their girlfriend about the problem analyzing each angle every which way without really doing anything to solve it.

Women talk and rant because they have the need to validate their anger, and at the same time seek emotional rapport. Talking out anger and problems, helps calms us down. Hearing our girlfriends say and agree that yes he is a lying asshole or that your ISP provider should be shot in the head and their building razed then offers to get you ice cream to feel better does in fact make us feel better. We feel better because we don't feel alone in our rage and our problems.

Yes, we women are emotional, deal with it. If you guys can't, then I suggest having to forgo women the rest of your life. Going yaoi might be a good alternative.

Men on the other hand when dealt with a problem, take steps to find solution, do it. Snap. Crackle. Pop. Now what happens when guy (read note: boyfriend, husband, father, brother, best friend) has to pacify the angry female (read note: girlfriend, wife, mother, sister, best friend)?

Just a friendly advice: women, do not like having "solutions" thrown at their faces when in the midst of a bitch rage. Which is unfortunate because this a very classic scenario that baffles even the most well meaning Guy.

Girl throws a fit, complains badly of a bad day, her terror boss, how her favorite Gucci bag's leather strap broke and the snooty Starbucks barrista gave the wrong type of milk for her latte and gave her LBM. Well-meaning Guy will then comfort Girl, telling her it's alright and offers her a book on "How to Manage the Boss," offer to take Gucci bag to Mr. Quickie, and advices to call up the manager of Starbucks and complain the next time it happens again. Girl gets even angry, over analyzes the solution, shoots it down while Guy offers alternative solution, wash, rinse, repeat and until Girl snaps and hurls Guy off the window, or if Guy is unfortunately living under the same roof as Girl, is going to end up in the couch for a week if she's in a good mood.

Guys, sound familiar?

As well-meaning as you think the Guy is doing, it doesn't appear well-meaning to the Girl who has to receive advice. What she hears is going to be most likely the Guy sounding patronizing and making her feel horrible that she has to be angry at something so easily fixed or remedied.

What a Guy says: "Hon, that's not a big deal, I'll take your Gucci bag to Mr. Quickie and get it fixed. And next time the barrista isn't getting your order right, call the manager to complain."

What the Girl hears: "You're such an overreacting ninny. All you had to do was just get your bag fixed and bitch at the manager when the barrista gets your order wrong. So stop being angry! Sheesh. Talk about emotional."

The following are possible scenarios might happen after depending on the severity:

1) Guy gets screamed and gets hit by something breakable.

2) Guy sleeps in couch or in his old bedroom back at his folk's place.

3) Girl gets a new Guy (but not after she goes to a raging bitch fest with her girlfriends who will then agree that Girl did the right thing and give her ice cream or go shopping. After a week or so, one of them will introduce Guy #2)

4) All of the Above

So please, Guys, before you open your mouth to gleefully dispense that advice... THINK. In reality no one really likes getting advice, especially when one is experiencing "strong" emotions. You're best bet is to coddle, try not to say anything or make empty promises (like wishing to be there when you obviously aren't, or doing something you obviously aren't going to be doing). Advices given during the bitch rage is like begging to be shot at. If this advice was taken, during that time and it FAILS, which is most likely, Guy will never hear the end of it. And if he's unlucky it'll be the last thing he'll hear from her.

Ever.

Maybe add some posturing, swearing to beat the guy who has annoyed the Girl and suddenly surprise them with ice cream and maybe a good chick flik. You can guarantee that you'd get a Girl who will adore you and if your lucky, you can get chika-bow-wow adventure of your own.

One advice? Coddle the Girl, get her calmed down and when she is calm, then give the advice. By then rationality is back, and in calmer and more receiving mode and Guy is seen as sweet and sensitive.

Isn't that better?

I'm not around three thousand bucks short, all thanks to my tendency to stress shop. If it's not shopping its eating. I knew it was a mistake when my mom on one of those rare moods asked to be brought to an all you can eat buffet. I'm not going to argue, if she wants to eat, she'll eat. I swear, my pigging out to see my mom eat more than one plate of food was worth it.

And rarer still was my mom insisting to go out and walk for a bit, and went into the Nike store. I found a few things I liked and bought them. A new gym bag and a nice wallet and also a blouse for my mom. ^_^ Over all it was a good way to spend lunch break.

On the SL side, I just finished another male outfit I made based from the outfit worn by Alphonse Elric in the Full Metal Alchemist movie. It took a while to make due to stress despite it being a simple looking outfit.

It comes included with the following: the black inner jacket (jacket form), outer jacket w/ black shirt underneath (shirt to puff up the sleeves), outer jacket w/o black shirt (in both shirt and jacket), black pants, white alchemist gloves, prim hoodie and a prim hood.

Rogue Alchemist: Red, Blue and Mustard.

And where oh god, where in SL do I have to look to find male skins with the same quality as the skins from Empyrean Emperioum? :(

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I'm also hanging around qRO playing in the high rate server. It's nice to go back to RO occassionally and the high exp rating has given me oppurtunities to enjoy the game without having to invest all my time to it. It's a good diversion. If any of you are around qRO do give me a ring. I answer to the name Alayna and Maeyala. I have several other novices but I'm not using them yet.

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I've begun playing Kingdom Hearts 2 and I can say it's an overall improvement of the previous KH game. It wasn't as boring for one, the story was better, not to mention the ridiculous amount of eye candy available in-game. And of course, everyone from the FF universe got an overhaul in their outfits. Cloud, Tifa, Yuffie are sporting their Advent Children look, Aeris and Squall (or Leon as he prefers to be called in the game) got a lot cuter and yummier and of course there's Sephiroth who just looks awesome in whatever outfit you put him in.

I recommend playing the game at the very least until you get to the fight in Hollow Bastion. The tag team play of Cloud and Squall is worth while seeing.